RENÉE MICHAELA
Building the dream life now, not someday, and showing the parts that aren't pretty yet.
I provide simple, steady tools and honest writing to help burned-out high achievers change the way their days feel.
Because let’s be honest (and I always will): if you have to "hustle a bit" to earn the slow life, you haven't escaped the trap; you've just discounted it.
your dream life is closer than you think.
your dream life is closer than you think.
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Joy isn't random; it's biology. Discover the science behind dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins, and a simple D.O.S.E. routine for more joyful days.
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I always thought something was wrong with me because I never had the best friend I saw on TV. Then, 13 years after study abroad, I walked back into a room with my people and had to rethink everything I believed about connection.
I lost my job and my mom got cancer in the same year. It was the collapse of everything I'd built for stability and the thing that finally broke me out of someday thinking for good.
You did everything right and still felt nothing. Here's what the arrival fallacy actually is, why your brain is wired for it, and the question that finally breaks the loop.
I tried morning pages as a burned-out overachiever who had already tried everything else. They didn't fix me but they made it impossible to keep lying to myself. Here's my honest review, including the three things I changed that made them actually work.
Miss Rumphius scattered her seeds in an ordinary life. Not someday. Not once everything was perfect. Right where she was. Here's how to do the same
Miss Rumphius had three dreams. I'd spent years chasing the first two — the travel, the coast. A someday life. It took burnout, a layoff, and rereading a childhood picture book to realize the third.
Creativity won't save you from burnout, but this might. What actually happened when I finally stopped making excuses and showed up to a pottery class: what I learned about perfectionism, why I hated being told what to make, and the unexpected thing that actually built joy. This is part of my series called Field Notes, a real-time experiment in cultivating joy.
The validation you're chasing? It's never going to come from outside. Not from the title, not from the salary, not from anyone pointing at your life going look at everything she's doing. I know because I spent years outsourcing my self-worth to all of those things. Here's what I learned when I finally stopped.
What happens when you stop postponing life for "someday"? I'm spending my 33rd year running 12 experiments to answer one question: How do you build a state of joy that coexists with the uncertainty of life? This is autoethnographic research—documenting real-time experiments in creative expression, intentional living, and deprogramming from hustle culture. No guru shit, just messy truth from the wilderness.
January is loud. Everyone seems to have a plan, a vision, a glow-up timeline. Meanwhile, I’m sitting with a cup of tea, watching the trees rest, wondering why we expect ourselves to bloom on command.
This is a reflection from the space between endings and beginnings — about pressure, self-trust, and what it means to build a life without forcing clarity before it arrives.
Are you living the life you want right now, or waiting for someday? The Library Card Theory explores why we treat our lives like borrowed time—and how to stop. Practical steps to use the good china, take the trip, and leave your mark on the life you're living today.
Perfectionism doesn't make you better—it just keeps you stuck. Here's how the 80% rule helped me overcome my creative block and start creating after 10 years of waiting to be "ready."
A reflective essay on how loss became a language of its own — from losing a phone in a Scottish bog to losing jobs and identities years later. A story of creative recovery, writing as an anchor, and learning to live through the in-between.
one step ahead on the same trail.
HI, I’M RENÉE
a recovering perfectionist documenting what it actually looks like to stop waiting for someday and build their dream life right now.
If you've been in a low-grade slump and can't quite explain why, this is the video I wish I'd had. The steps are simple. The science is real. And it's a lot less complicated than you think.