Why I Never Had a Best Friend And What I Found Instead
I always thought something was wrong with me because I never had the best friend I saw on TV. Then, 13 years after study abroad, I walked back into a room with my people and had to rethink everything I believed about connection.
I Burned Out, Got Laid Off, and Learned to Stop Waiting for Someday
I lost my job and my mom got cancer in the same year. It was the collapse of everything I'd built for stability and the thing that finally broke me out of someday thinking for good.
Why Achieving Your Goals Still Feels Empty (And What to Do About It)
You got the thing. And then nothing landed the way you thought it would. Here's what the arrival fallacy actually explains about why achieving goals doesn't make you happy and the one question that finally breaks the cycle.
I Broke Every Morning Pages Rule and Finally Found Clarity
I tried morning pages as a burned-out overachiever who had already tried everything else. They didn't fix me but they made it impossible to keep lying to myself. Here's my honest review, including the three things I changed that made them actually work.
How to Live Your Dream Life Now: The Enough Audit
Miss Rumphius scattered her seeds in an ordinary life. Not someday. Not once everything was perfect. Right where she was. Here's how to do the same
I Was Living My Dream Life and Still Burned Out: What Miss Rumphius Taught Me About What Was Actually Missing
Miss Rumphius had three dreams. I'd spent years chasing the first two — the travel, the coast. A someday life. It took burnout, a layoff, and rereading a childhood picture book to realize the third.
Why New Year Pressure Feels So Overwhelming (And What to Do Instead)
January is loud. Everyone seems to have a plan, a vision, a glow-up timeline. Meanwhile, I’m sitting with a cup of tea, watching the trees rest, wondering why we expect ourselves to bloom on command.
This is a reflection from the space between endings and beginnings — about pressure, self-trust, and what it means to build a life without forcing clarity before it arrives.
The Library Card Theory: Why I’m Done Treating My Life Like I’m Borrowing It
Are you living the life you want right now, or waiting for someday? The Library Card Theory explores why we treat our lives like borrowed time—and how to stop. Practical steps to use the good china, take the trip, and leave your mark on the life you're living today.
The Perfectionism Trap: Why 'Good Enough' Changed My Life
Perfectionism doesn't make you better—it just keeps you stuck. Here's how the 80% rule helped me overcome my creative block and start creating after 10 years of waiting to be "ready."
How Writing Through Burnout Helped Me Find Myself Again
A reflective essay on how loss became a language of its own — from losing a phone in a Scottish bog to losing jobs and identities years later. A story of creative recovery, writing as an anchor, and learning to live through the in-between.
Why Living at Home in Your 30s Is Not a Failure
By society’s standards, I’m a loser — unemployed, living at home, writing from the same bedroom I grew up in. For a long time, I carried the weight of that label like proof I’d fallen behind. But the truth? Living at home became the foundation for everything beautiful, brave, and free about my life. This Tiny Rebellion is about redefining what “making it” really means — and learning that sometimes, coming home is the most radical move of all.
Learning to Live with Yearning: Dream Life, Figs, and the Beauty of Waiting
The cold sea licks at my feet, and I ache with yearning—for a cottage by the sea, for salt air and harbor walks. But yearning is not absence; it’s an invitation to live the dream life in the figs already ripe before us.
Stop Waiting for Someday: How the Enough Audit Changed the Way I See My Life
We’ve been taught to chase a dream life always out of reach—moving the goalpost, climbing the ladder, never quite arriving. But what if the real trap isn’t that we’re behind, but that we’ve bought into the promise itself? In this essay, I explore how to step off the treadmill of striving and name the ordinary moments—coffee in your pajamas, tending the garden—as the dream life already unfolding. With a simple practice I call the Enough Audit, you’ll learn how to notice, honor, and nurture what’s here right now.
Stop Waiting for Your Dream Life (Part 1: The Recognition)
I used to think my dream life would begin when I “made it.” But sitting here in Rockport with coffee in hand, seagulls overhead and salt air filling my lungs, I realized: this is it. The dream life isn’t pinned to a board—it’s rooted in presence, contentment, and creativity.
Four Inspiring Books to Help You Live Unconventionally & Create Your Dream Life
These are the books that became my lighthouses in the messy middle—reminding me that you don’t need to wait for milestones to start living your dream life. If you’ve ever felt untethered or weighed down by “shoulds,” these stories may help you find your own way home.
Garden Notes: The August Harvest
August has been a practice in slowing down — shaping my days around rituals, cozy recipes, and small joys. This month’s Harvest gathers the grounding habits, tiny luxuries, and moments of presence that carried me through late summer. Think of it as a little care package from my garden to yours.
What Moving Back Home Taught Me About Identity, Belonging, and Reconnecting With Yourself
My childhood bedroom is now my office. A wooden desk sits where a twin bed once was, cameras and computers where Barbies once lived. Some days it feels like my past self is still here, just out of reach. This essay is about memory, leaving and returning, and what it means to live beside her again.
How to Break Free from the "When-Then" Cycle and Stop Postponing Your Life
I spent years living in the when-then cycle: When I get this, then I’ll be happy. When I reach that milestone, then my real life begins. I chased dream after dream, but every time I arrived, I’d already set my sights on the next. It took an unexpected pause to see the truth — the in-between isn’t a waiting room. It’s where the becoming happens.
Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself
We’re told intentional living starts at 5am with a perfect routine — but maybe it starts here: in one honest moment, where you choose what you actually need. A gentle reminder to drop the “shoulds” and come back to yourself.
How to Rebuild Your Life After Burnout (Without the Hustle)
Burnout doesn't always announce itself. It just quietly hollows you out until you've forgotten what full feels like. Here's what rebuilding actually looked like for me and the tiny rebellions that changed everything.